There is a reason why Tinder seems to have a higher difficulty setting for men, and it’s not just because women tend to be pickier.

If you’re a guy – and not part of the Hemsworth family – the game of Tinder can be a frustrating one. Especially if you count your matches, or stare at the space where they should appear, and then read about how many women get 2’000 likes a day and can basically match with any guy in their queue if they want to.

To make things even more frustrating, match rates have dropped massively for everyone in the past years, as it very much seems Tinder reduces your “organic” visibility more and more with each feature they add to their premium plans. I mean, why pay for boosts if you get enough likes already, right?

But while there are certainly things you can do to improve your standing with Tinder’s algorithm and increase your match rate, you’ll never have it as easy as the other side does. At least as far as receiving likes goes.

The Reason Getting Matches on Tinder is so Much Harder for Guys

Yes, it’s true that women, by and large, are pickier than men on Tinder. It’s also likely that there are fewer (seriously interested) girls on the app than guys. But those things alone don’t lead to the gross imbalance we see. What is and has been happening is that –

  1. Guys get on Tinder and quickly find they don’t get as many matches as they expected, or hardly any.
    Girls get on Tinder and quickly find themselves drowning in matches.
  2. Guys lower their standards in the hopes of getting some/more matches.
    Girls raise their standards because they really don’t have time to talk to all these matches, and well, because they can.
  3. Guys, after spending days swiping and not getting (m)any matches to show for it, get frustrated and start swiping right on everybody because it’s easier to sort through the matches they do get. What they don’t realize is that they are ruining their score and getting shadowbanned by Tinder for this behavior.
    Girls find they still match with nigh every guy they swipe right on, so they get even pickier and basically only swipe on the guys of their dreams, or extremely interesting profiles. Usually this leaves them with an extensive list of matches that are not showing all that much interest.
  4. The circle continues…

So what can you do to break the cycle?

The answer for the guys is as obvious as it might seem unhelpful (at first): Stop the indiscriminate right-spamming! Of course you can say that you alone don’t have the power to change things, and yes, it would take the majority of users playing by the rules and using the app as intended to actually break the vicious circle. But you can do yourself a favor by not bricking your Tinder account with an extremely low elo score for spam-swiping right.

After all, this vicious circle is why the algorithm basically makes you invisible to others for using the app like a bot. If not, Tinder truly would end up as a place for men to just enlist and for women to pick them out of a catalogue of sorts. Swiping right on everybody breaks the game. Why they chose not to make the rules public, however, is open to speculation.

Instead, you should focus on improving your account, score, and thereby your match rate. Whatever you do, no matter how frustrated you get… try to not let it out on any matches you do get.

Finally, if you’re still not seeing the success you were hoping for on Tinder, explore different dating sites and apps. Tinder may be the most popular (yet), but there may be a better match out there for you. If all else fails, there is still the option of approaching and talking to people in real life, but I wouldn’t know anything about that.