Dev usually writes for his blog technomosis.com, but from time to time he will share his best dating advice with us here at SwipeHelper. His first guest post is entiteled:
How to pick the perfect spot for any Tinder occasion
Choosing a first date restaurant is universally acknowledged as the worst task known to man. The good news: Because that fact is so well-known, everyone accepts that a first date is basically a training-wheels situation, and nobody walks into one expecting to see your A-game. Play it a little safe and you’ll still be okay; you can even get away with just going for a drink, as long as you don’t just head to the closest Irish pub. Even the slightest hint that you put some serious, personal thought into your choice is the romantic equivalent of sending about eight dozen red roses—play it right, and it won’t be another lonely night with the body pillow for you.
Hit up a cocktail bar that takes its drinks but not itself too seriously—if your date’s the kind who could talk amaro all night, she’ll feel like you’re a member of the club; if she’s never ordered anything more complex than a vodka-tonic, she’ll feel a half-step out of her league (which isn’t a bad head game to play) but won’t get laughed out of the joint when she orders. Look for one that’s got a good lineup of snacks so you can extend the evening if it goes well
Now that you’ve gotten to know each other, you can’t get away with another generic, safe choice—you’re on the hook to blow your date away with the killer places you know around town and how much you just get her, man. This is your capital-N “nice” meal; even if you’re still not sure you won’t need an emergency exit at some point, you’re going to have to suck it up for at least a few hours in this person’s direct company.
It’s a good call to have a place that can take some of the pressure off, conversationally, and let you smooth over any rough patches with some benign small talk. A decked-out room is an easy way to keep people talking—like TGI Friday’s flair, but not as soul-crushingly cynical as that. Then there’s the menu itself—interesting dishes can be conversation starters, though this is not the time to go super-obscure unless you’re 100% sure she’s up for a challenge.
Asking someone to get married
I’ve got bad news for you: This is one date you’re going to have to plan on your own. Getting married should be a celebration of your relationship, and that starts with the proposal—it’s got to be incredibly personal. Take some time to list some of the stand-out moments you’ve shared together so far, then think about how you might use that for your plan. Did you meet at a trivia night? Bond over your shared love of the Mets? Use it. Just don’t go all flash mob-public declaration of love, okay?
Go to the place you had your first date; a restaurant that reminds you of the first trip you took together; a picnic at the trail head where you go camping every summer. Whatever it is, relive your memories from there, and remind your partner that you remember everything.
These are just the three common situations that Tinder users face when deciding to meet up. I did my best to list out how to play your dates, but it’s up to you to figure out your final plan of attack!